It has been a while since I’ve posted. In some ways, the chapter of my life when I was the Crabby Cancer Wife has come to a close. For a long time, I resisted giving it up because I still think of myself as married to my husband, even as I continue to date VeryNiceMan (who apparently is also “very patient man”). In this time that has passed, I moved away from the marital home and back in with my parents and went back to school and earned a master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. I miss my husband often, but have also made new memories, and the ache of longing has become familiar. I’m now living on my own again – not in my marital home, not in my childhood home, but in a place where I can claim my present and future.
I have joined with The People’s Therapy Group in Philadelphia where I work as a therapist seeing individuals and couples. I seem to have developed a bit of a niche in working with people who are in non-traditional careers – actors, artists, musicians, as well as other people who do not have a “9 to 5” job. I also work with caregivers of people who have traumatic or terminal illness and their families. I find it tremendously rewarding, and I am humbled to say that my clients seem to feel that way, too.
I also do premarital counseling and wedding officiating with The Well Tied Knot, LLC, which is a nice balance to the intensity of the other part of my work.
After three years since my dear husband died, two years of graduate school, and one massive trip, I’m finally feel ready to claim what comes next.
Thank you all for joining me on this journey.
– Michelle Weiss Hilburn